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Master/slave Relations Presentation Outline Dynamics of a Master/slave relationship What do you think when you hear about an M/s relationship? Why do you think most M/s relationships fail? What do you think it takes to keep an M/s relationship fresh and vital? What are you looking for by attending this presentation? Recommended readings Common terms and understandings Leather versus not-Leather Types of relationships Self examination: what do you bring to the table? What do you seek - structure vs the person What does a "Master candidate" look like to a slave? What does a "slave candidate" look like to a Master? Have you thought about what you WON'T accept in a slave? What will you pay in time and money to make the relationship magical What if you've been looking for a slave for a long time and have'nt been able to find one? What if the relationship doesn't work out? Why does your slave candidate want to be a slave? The bottom line in the M/s dynamic On ego and insecurity in the M/s relationship On the role of love in the M/s relationship On poor quality Doms On choosing a mate Processing modalities What role do you want to play in this relationship? What activities are you want in this relationship? What authority system is involved? How will you deal with reactance and resistance? How will you execute the responsibility of your command? The framework of the relationship: your Leather Household What does your house stand for? How do you expect your family members to behave? Beliefs " about spirituality and about people Agreements Time commitments Finding a slave The -stuff. of the search Questions to ask or to be prepared to answer Getting the word out that you.re searching Getting to know your candidate before collaring him/her Guarding against a poor quality submissive/slave Serious warning flags about a person Beginning a relationship Tips on developing command presence Starting a new relationship: a time of going crazy General warnings about submissives/slaves Some suggestions before you start negotiations Negotiations What do you negotiate? Etiology of a crisis How do you empower your Family? How do you solve problems? skill problems vs- performance problems Contracts and collars Styles of contracts Common clauses in contracts Types of collars Maintaining a relationship - seven secretes Some core truths Visible and invisible knowledge Upsets Goal setting - balancing priorities - ongoing improvement - taking risks etc How's it going? Know your priorities; plan your future Say nothing, then think about it My own personal failure: giving my slave free time Demonstrate your appreciation When in trouble, revert to protocols Don't ask questions to which you don't want answers Learn to manage discussions Know what slaves fear most |
