Master/slave Relations: Communications 401, The Advanced Course Table of Contents Dedication Acknowledgements Chapter One: Getting on the Same Page       Orientation       Requests, Orders, and Instructions       Why I Wrote This Book Chapter Two: Writing the First Page in the Rest of Your Life       Create a Sacred Space       Relive Your Beginnings and Why You Came Together       Document the Unusual Situation in Which You Now Live       Validate Who You Are in Your Own Right       Validate Who You Are in a Master/slave Power Exchange       Project Five Years into the Future, Based upon What Is Working       Embark on the Journey Together. Chapter Three: How You Work       Thinking/Working Preferences: Seven Meta-Programs: A very brief overview       Toward or Away       External or Internal Frames of Reference       Sorting by Self or Sorting by Others       Matcher or Mismatcher       Possibility Versus Necessity       Independent Versus Cooperative Working Styles       Process Versus Product Thinking       What You Think You Know       The Johari Window       Visible and Invisible Knowledge       Conscious and Unconscious Knowledge Chapter Four: Dealing with Emotional Issues       Dealing with Each Person’s Self-Image       Identifying the Emotion-Based Issue       Being Upset Versus Having an Upset       Willful Action Versus Inattentiveness Chapter Five: Communication Theory and Practice       What Are Communication Challenges?       Intricacies of Communication       The Clarity of Your Speech       Communicating Your Reactions to Something Just Said       Staying Present with Your Partner: Active Listening       Ways of Communicating       Processing Modalities       The Languages of Love       Preferences As a Function of Socialization Differences Between Genders       Transactional Analysis: Speaking from Your Ego State       Beware of the One-Word Response       Improving Communication by Changing a Few of the Words You Use       Problems Become Challenges       Always and Never Become Often and Seldom       Should Have Becomes Could Have       Avoid the Use of Bad       Faults Become Differences       Mistakes Become Valuable Lessons       Communication Effectiveness       Simplicity and Directness       Being in-the-Moment When Speaking       Interpreting Inflected Speech Chapter Six: Seeking Solutions for Manageable Issues       General Solution-Seeking Strategies       Start by Naming the Issue Without Offending Your Partner       Create a List of Results - What Does “Success” Look Like?       Summarize What the Other Person Said Before Replying       Talking Sticks       Making Distinctions       Stated Issue Versus the Real Issue       Recognized Concern Versus Underlying Causes/Issues       Political Expediency Versus Tough Alternatives Chapter Seven: And in Conclusion… Appendix       A: Glossary of Terms       Describing Some Relationships Comparing and Contrasting Key Concepts Terms Relating to the Mental State B: List of tables, charts, and exercises About the Author